My Grandmother

August.17.2008 at 11:28 pm 4 comments

I went to visit my grandmother about two weeks ago, the one near Pasadena. Even though her house is about 25 minutes away from work, I’ve never really bothered going.

It’s been months since I’ve seen her, plus I didn’t have any plans that night. I left work early because I told her the previous night I would be there around 06:00 p.m.

I was early (as usual), parked, curbed my wheel towards the street (because it’s on a hill) and slowly walked up towards the house … the door was ajar, so I let myself in.

I took my shoes off as I saw my grandfather and said hello to him; he looks so much older and thinner these days.

My grandmother heard me and came bustling in to greet me with a smile on her face. She looked the same … but tired.

My mom was telling me that my grandfather tripped a couple of months ago when they went on vacation.

As he tripped part of his glasses cut his face, thankfully it wasn’t too bad. I went back to my parents house this weekend and my mom was saying he tripped AGAIN when they went to Santa Barbra. Poor guy, he’s so clumsy at times.

Anyways, I walked into the kitchen where she was cooking dinner. It brought back memories when I was small and when she use to take care of me. The smell of toast and jam … the pots sitting on the stove … and the Thrifty Ice Cream she used to buy.

Since I was early, I told her to take her time as I went into the living room to watch television with my grandfather. We ate dinner, which was delicious because she cooked my favorite dish.

We were talking and they were asking if I had a girlfriend yet (which in my mind was funny because they don’t know I’m gay). If they ever knew, I don’t think our relationship would be the same.

They’re ultra-conservative and I already know there opinion about the matter. They think it’s strange and not normal at all.

Anyways, my grandmother was talking to me as I was helping her clean the table, she usually tells me three things. They’re usually:

  1. If you’re hungry or too tired to cook, don’t be afraid to spend some money and grab something to eat.
  2. Remember to hang out and keep in touch with your friends, especially the good ones.
  3. If you have the time, travel and explore the world with your parents or friends.

She usually repeats them everytime I see her, so I politely nod ….. everytime, haha. I think she remembers telling me, guess it’s a grandmother thing.

Anyways after dinner I watched television with them, looked through some photographs they took on their trip, and just relaxed.

It was getting late so I decided to leave; everytime I visit her she usually cooks food for me to take back. But it was too much so I had to split it with my parents.

I took a picture of the food she gave me … took me 3 trips before I finally got everything in.

Enough to feed me for a week!

Enough to feed me for a week!

Yeah, the amount of food she had me bring back could have fed a village and the one next to it, haha. I called my mom the next day and asked if she could take some of it before it spoiled.

My dad was saying how happy my grandmother was because I went to visit her. Which made me happy because that wasn’t my intended purpose; I just missed seeing her and wanted to visit.

I guess when you care about someone, you’ll do whatever you can to make them happy; even if it’s something small.

Maybe by visiting and hanging out with them, maybe by staying up late and chatting with them, or maybe by just asking how they’re doing.

It’s always the small thoughtful things people tend to remember. Someone I knew asked me why I’m so nice to my friends.

Like spending the day with them on their birthday … helping them out even though they’re too afraid or too stubborn to ask … or just dropping a line and asking how they are.

I know most people probably think that my first thoughts are, “Is this going to make me look good?” or “I hope I get something in return”.

I’ve never had those popup. The thoughts I usually have are, “I hope they like their present” or “Let’s pray he / she has a great time”, which then stresses me out.

It’s always about them and whether they’re happy or not … that’s all I care about. I know people don’t understand that  … but that’s how my personality is like.

I’m a giver, not a taker, lol.

As I get older … I’m realizing and filtering out friends and acquaintances.

The people who are genuine, the people who make me feel great when I’m around them, the people who don’t take advantage of me, and the people who actually care and respect me.

I unfortunately made a huge mistake in thinking someone was my friend, that no matter how nice I was … how genuine I was … it didn’t matter in the end because they never saw me that way.

It’s a difficult process and we make mistakes here and there … but we’re only human and learn from it. We just have to make sure we don’t end up repeating it.

But as a friend of mine said, “Friendship takes two”. And he’s absolutely right about that … even though I won’t say it to his face because his ego will probably grow larger, *smiles*.

On a side note, I’m watching the Roast of Bob Saget … which is pretty hilarious. Especially when the comedians bag on each other … funny shit … funny shit.

Can’t believe it’s almost September … unbelievable …..

– A


Entry filed under: General, Life, Personal, Thoughts.

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4 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Tara  |  August.18.2008 at 7:34 am

    Your grandfather seems to have some bad luck when he’s traveling. Did the last stumble in Santa Barbara hurt him too much?

    That’s some nice advice your grandmother gives you! I like the first one about eating out if you’re too tired to cook or don’t have anything at home. I like that advice a lot. Hehe.

    Didn’t see the roast of Bob Saget. I’m not much of a roast fan. I remembered Saget when he’d host America’s Funniest Home Videos. He kind of looks like one of my brothers.

  • 2. - A  |  August.18.2008 at 11:15 pm

    Well a little … he was coming off a bus and tripped. My sister said he scraped his leg / knee. He’s so clumsy at times … guess that’s where I get it from.

    Thanks! My grandmother would love to hear that … I usually follow the first advice if I’m dead tired or lazy to cook, haha.

    I remember that show too! Use to watch it with my mom and sister on Sunday’s … ahhhh … memories.

  • 3. Debo Hobo  |  September.13.2008 at 4:55 am

    Very touching and loving post 🙂

  • 4. - A  |  September.13.2008 at 11:03 pm

    Thanks Debo! She’s a wonderful lady if you get to meet her, 🙂


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