May.4.2008 at 12:02 am 2 comments

Assurance is a funny thing … somehow when you get it … it eases your mind of everything. Your worries disappear, your apprehension disappears, and your insecurities disappear.

Everyone gets it in some form or another, whether we like it or not … or even try to deny that we don’t need assurance. We always do … it may not be self-evident, but it’s there. For example:

  • When in you’re in a relationship, that assurance your boyfriend or girlfriend loves you is self evident. All you have to do is look right next to you and they’re there standing by your side, through thick and thin.
  • When you’re at work, the assurance that you’re doing a good job and making a difference. Maybe it’s the satisfaction that you see from your boss or maybe the client you’re working for says, “Hey, this program was really developed well.”
  • When you have friends, the assurance that they’re true, real friends is when the time comes … that you can always count on them. That even though through the good and bad times, they accept who you are. That even though they show they might not care, deep down you can only hope they do. Because there’s too many fake people in this world.

Deep down, I secretly want that feeling. It’s just a personality trait of mine, whether or not we truly admit it or if we realize it ourselves.

  • Like at work, it would be nice that I’m doing a good job or making a contribution to our company. Yeah we might not hear it that often, but that “pat on the back” does make a difference in the long run.
  • With my friends … that assurance that we genuinely are friends. Not just someone they talk to or hang out with whenever it’s convenient for them. That they really do care and it’s not all some show that they’re putting on.
    • I won’t admit this to any of them … but it’s nice to hear from them time to time that they miss hanging out or talking.
  • In my personal life, whenever I decide to make a major decision. I want affirmation and assurance that it’s the right thing to do. I’m afraid of taking risks and when I do … I just need someone to say, “Yeah … you’re doing the right thing”

I think we all have vulnerabilities in life … from someone who is emotionally fragile to someone who is physically strong. No matter how weak or strong you are … there are always weaknesses in us and whether we like to admit it or not.

They are there and we cannot get rid of them, they are part of us. Assurance … it really is a funny thing when you look at it.

Somehow having someone just say, “Hey, everything is going to be all right” or “You know … I did miss talking and hanging out with you” just makes everything in your mind ease. Maybe it’s just the confirmation … I don’t know.

Our minds work in strange and miraculous ways, weird huh?

– A


Entry filed under: General, Life, Personal, Thoughts.

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2 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Tara  |  May.5.2008 at 7:20 am

    It’s very true. Assurance can make a difference in our work and personal life. I recently received a compliment from a guy who works at our company’s headquarters. He was auditing our files and noticed how much work was put into them. Suddenly I felt like my job was noticed.

    Very good post!

  • 2. - A  |  May.5.2008 at 8:43 am

    Thanks Tara!

    Assurance, it makes our day just a bit better .. 🙂


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