MySpace

Okay … I’ll admit that I do have a MySpace and a Facebook like almost everyone on this planet does. I use these sites primarily to keep in touch with friends I don’t see often, but it sometimes brings unnecessary drama into your life, in my opinion.

It would be interesting if they have a psychology class based on the usage of MySpace or any of the social networking sites, unless they already have one out there. The reason it brings drama is you see so much of your friends life: comments from other people, pictures they’ve taken, their interests and hobbies, and on and on.

For example, someone new left a comment on their page, curiosity takes over and you wonder … who is this person? You see pictures of your boyfriend with another girl … who is she and is he cheating on me? Little things like these start building and building and suddenly you’re battling something larger than you expected to.

Then there’s MySpace’s Top 8 or Top 16 or Top [Insert Amount of Friends] that people have. They have their Top 8 friends displayed prominently for all to see. We rank our friends from ‘1′ being the closest to ‘8′ being “semi-close”, that’s usually the case for most people. I used John Mayer’s as an example *blushes*

What happens when you go onto a friends page and suddenly your prominent spot of number 10 is now downgraded to number 20 or whatever the case might be. Should I take offense to that now? Does that mean we’re not as close as we used to be as friends? Should I even care in the first place that I was moved?

Or maybe, I’m being really stupid and just need to hear, “You’re being stupid [Insert my name]“, *smiles*. I don’t know … the reasoning and logic they put you into that new spot was decided by them and only them. The way they group / rank people is also based on them.

There are people out there who care about their placement, others … well not so much. So brings the awkwardness of, why did they move you to that new spot? There’s usually always a reason behind an action.

In the example above … if it were me, I would just trust my friend and know that in their heart, they do see me as a close friend and this “Top 8″ mumbo-jumbo is nothing more than a way to show who’s close to them, in no particular order of course (to a degree though.)

And how do I rank my friends? That’s a great question, maybe for another post or if you ask nicely.

When it comes down to it, these sites are a great way to reconnect with long lost schoolmates or friends, but it can also open up more trouble than you want. Like Pandora’s Box, it can bring many evils into your world if you choose to open it.

- A